I cant be a feminist in this retrogressive society hence I have decided to write some thing in support of men.Weekend columns in newspapers are full of suggestions for us.Relationship counsellers keep suggesting to our race about not being "Possessive" and give space to women.Our acts are typecasted as attempts to take control over the life of a woman.Which may be baseless notions :) Men generally are better in anticipation and have crystal gazing eyes .Naturally we are opinionated because we are often held responsible for whatever happens to our loved ones.And one does not have to look far for evidences and can draw conclusions from our family itself where dad often gets the blame if something bad happens.A gal uniformly follows their parent's instructions but later when advises come from a young boy out of his desperate love, he often gets to hear that he is being possessive !! .They forget that some one who is ready to walk with them till their grave, also needs understanding.May be we are trying to act as protectionist.Try to give yourself a different perspective and see if it works :)
Hey...so, here comes my comment on that, because being a girl, I wud not agree to it to a certain extent. Its not about a girl or a guy...wen u r in love, certainly space is required, it has nothing to do with a gal or a guy. In general, every individual in a relation shud give some space, trust him and set the partner free, if he returns back he's urs otherwise he never was. Coming to the point of, "Men generally are better in anticipation and have crystal gazing eyes " I would only say its the modern world of equality as it is regularly boasted of...so, every girl today wants to live an individual life, wants to take her own decisions, wants to llive and experience this world on her own....so, for most of the girls of today, their parents also don't interfere much after a certain level. And even if they do, they are the parents, they still hold some right to help their child in some important decision of life.
ReplyDeleteTherefore, whether it is the parents or the boyfriend, they are welcome only for suggestions, accepting them or not is the decision of each individual girl.
And if u actually love someone, u'll always support and co-operate in ur partner's decision, because everyone is capable of taking decisions of their own.
So, just LOVE, TRUST & CO-OPERATE iwth ur partner....and he's all urs.
Very well said mam..but I keep a rather cynical view over this obsolete belief that set ur partner free and "If ..blaah..blaah.. then,,he/she is meant for u"..this is not matrix or a virtual world of cinema..the reality is that no one returns :) ..it is a materialistic world.Ideas and views keep changing like ne thing..such words of belief cn cum nly frm sum 1 hs been a victim of it,,these are fairytales..gud to say..mellifluos to hear but very rarely happen..definition of love has changed ..it is no more a HEER-RANJHA or,,LAILA-MAJNU type of love. It is the new definition of "Love aaj kal" :)
ReplyDeleteOkay, let's not get too filmy here now shall we ;), but out of the two opinions i feel that what nidhi has said is true. Times have changed quite a lot. Girls nowadays don't take shit from anyone. Sometimes it can even terrorize the females. It is true that such stuff like 'let him/her go....' does sound far-fetched at times, but its not entirely wrong. You have to see the context in which it is being referred to. It can mean, letting go of all authority on him/her, let them do what they like, meet the people they like etc. Then at then at the end of the day if they are still by your side, what's wrong with that? See, it's a fact that everyone needs their space. You can't go around telling people what to do & what not to. If the person was more interested in materialistic things related to you, then dude you've go your choices all wrong. As Bryan Adams crooned in one his songs, "It cuts like a knife, but it feels alright" !!!!
ReplyDeletewhatever she said might be true for gals to judge their life partner but for guys its otherwise..we cant let it happen.. its not cos gals are not trustworthy but it is cos they are not assertive by nature and they have a natural inclination towards giving up and sacrificing for their family.In the end three people suffer ...So I simply don't believe in the concept of let your partner go and wait..
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